Two of Us

It's pretty interesting to think of sliding vs. deciding, and how often couples can tend to "fall into" a commitment because it's seemingly just the "next thing to do." It's so important to be growing, learning, and progressing together...much like we are doing so here in this blog...because the goal is to always become better for one another! How this learning and growing can be done in so many ways, and one definite way is learning from past mistakes (which has to do with the first post in slidingvsdeciding.blogspot.com), which we shouldn't brush away carelessly or without second thought. What we have done in the past defines who we are now, and we must always center ourselves with God to become better in Him and to reflect Him in the future.

Speaking of centering ourselves towards God, I found an interesting website called twoofus.org. It isn't in any way religious-affiliated, but it does have some very interesting articles and links to different videos. One of these videos was something I found while looking at their youtube channel, called:

do religious people have better marriages?

They speak upon "shared meaning experiences," and how that shapes the "we" and "couple identity" in a relationship, and steers us away from a "me" mentality. These experiences can be sitting and watching an episode of The Sing-Off, going to church together, cooking...the key is that it's something we enjoy, look forward to doing, and talk about it afterward. It just makes me realize how lucky I am to be with someone who I know that I have a lot of "shared meaning experiences" with and look forward to having in the future! It also makes me very aware of how important it is to nurture, discuss, and care about it as two people, not as one...how the language of "we" is always better than the language of "me."